Embracing Sex Positivity: Building Confidence and Breaking Taboos

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How you were raised and how your culture views sexuality makes a major impact on your life. The Sex-Positive Movement was created to address damage caused by repression and shame – and support healing. It encourages safe and consensual sex and aims to foster a society where it is safe for everyone to express their sexuality. It has roots in open-minded individuals of the 19th century and in the work of people like Sigmund Freud, who believed human sexuality is a fundamental part of physiology. Embracing this form of positivity may help give you the confidence you need to break free of taboos that may be limiting your sexual freedom. 

What Positivity Means

Before we go further, let’s be clear about what sex positivity means. 

It is not about desiring sex or abstaining from sex. It is not about being promiscuous, wearing daring clothing, making provocative statements, or endorsing any particular lifestyle. It is not about being reckless or engaging in unsafe sexual encounters. It is not about having frequent sexual activity, and it is not about luring or convincing anyone to have sex. 

The Sex-Positive Movement embraces the philosophy that sex in its many forms is joyous, healthy, and a natural part of adult life. It supports casual sex, romantic sex, and long-term relationships. It also supports the choice to not partake in sex as well.  It is about freedom, education, consent, and respect for yourself and others, and it supports your right to make informed decisions and choices about your body. It supports your right to avoid sex and your right to say no or be celibate. 

Sex Positivity Helps Build Confidence

One of the key benefits of embracing a positive mindset when it comes to sex is building confidence in your sexuality. The movement is designed to foster self-acceptance and appreciation for your body and desires, as well as the desires and bodies of other individuals. It is meant to be a positive influence that benefits society, and its goal is to improve everyone’s quality of life, especially when it comes to how we regard gender and sexuality. 

Fighting Shame and Guilt

No one can evade the pressures of society, and some cultures may promote negativity toward some forms of sexual expression. Some cultures may instill shame and guilt around sex and gender at an early age. This may lead to unhealthy forms of personal and sexual expression, anxiety, and dissatisfaction. The Sex-Positive Movement offers a healthier perspective.

Sex positivity works to combat shame and guilt using education. In some cultures, a lack of sex education creates a knowledge vacuum that is filled by a traditional value system. Some traditional value systems offer rigid frameworks to govern all sexual or gender expression. Members of these cultures who deviate from the standard and accepted forms may be severely punished. This makes some people feel trapped. Getting a comprehensive and realistic sex education can help anyone gain the confidence needed to undo this type of conditioning. 
Sex positivity seeks to create a more open-minded, non-judgmental, and positive environment for sexual expression by supporting diverse representation in art, media, and public discourse. It works to dismantle judgemental attitudes and destigmatize self-exploration, sexual expression, and sex work.

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Handling Sexual Taboos

Embracing the Sex-Positive Movement can help lift sexual taboos that originate from a lack of education, fear, and stigma. These taboos can hold us back from becoming a more open, positive, and healthy society. Some of these taboos include: 

  • Contraception
  • Masturbation
  • Discussing sexual matters, STIs, or reproductive health
  • Recognizing LGBTQ+ concerns and individuals
  • Alternative lifestyles (Polyamory, BDSM, Furries, etc.)
  • Specific sex acts (anal sex, voyeurism, fellatio, three-ways, etc.)
  • Sex toys
  • Non-sexual activities like cross-dressing

Sex positivity helps to normalize these topics and activities, making it easier for adults to discuss them in a respectful manner. Embracing it may make you feel more comfortable in your skin and in pursuing your sexual desires. It respects all forms of human sexuality and helps to reduce the pressure to conform or adopt pre-approved forms of sexual expression. It supports self-acceptance and seeks to help heal the damage done by sexual repression and stigmatization.

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How Can I Embrace Sex Positivity?

You may enhance your personal life and help society as a whole by understanding the Sex-Positive Movement and putting it to work in your life. 

Partake in frank and honest communication when it comes to sexual matters. Be inclusive, respectful, and accepting of others. Respect other forms of sexual expression that are different from your own, including abstinence and traditional forms like heteronormative and CISnormative expressions. Educate yourself on different forms of expression and non-traditional sexual activities and lifestyles. Look for normative portrayals of non-conforming individuals in entertainment and sports and support them when you can. Identify companies hiring and promoting diverse individuals and creating all-inclusive material, and give them your business. 

Expressing Sex Positivity With Toys

It is healthy and fun to express yourself through intimate self-exploration. You can do this alone or with a partner, using fun and imaginative silicone sex toys.

Many users find that sex toys help to give them the confidence necessary to pursue new activities in bed. Fun sex toys for couples can make communication easier, orgasms more frequent, and help you become more intimate with your partner.

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