Discreet Sex
Whether you’re home for the holidays, living with too many roommates, or trying to travel with sex toys, having a sexy time with your partner can be difficult. Conducting sex quietly or using toys discreetly is the answer to anyone who doesn’t want to be caught doing the dirty. If you’re wondering about playing with sex toys discreetly, VSekreets is here with some answers. Follow along to learn how to have quiet sex without disturbing anyone else you may be sharing your space with.
1. Wear the Right Clothes
Choosing your clothing wisely is the first step toward discreet sex. You need your erogenous zones to be as accessible as possible, so wear dresses, skirts, and loose pants with elastic waistbands or zippers. For your underclothes, you can forgo wearing underwear or wear crotchless lingerie to ensure access. All of these clothing choices are ideal for certain sex positions or using your favorite body-safe silicone sex toys.
2. Choose the Right Location
If you have the flexibility of multiple rooms in your space, make sure you go to the room farthest away from where the majority of people are. You can use the bathroom, a remote bedroom, a closet, your car, or even the garage. The bathroom is an especially good choice if your space has multiple bathrooms.
Depending on your location, you may also need to dampen the sounds you may make. If you’re having sex or playing with sex toys discreetly in a space that has a lot of hard surfaces, any noise you make will be amplified. Ensure discreet sex when you use towels, blankets, rugs, and other soft surfaces to cover tile and stifle sound. You may also need to prevent beds or chairs from squeaking. Tighten loose screws, reinforce joints, and oil any metal parts to keep things quiet.
3. Decide on the Right Sex Signals
When you’re around others, it can be hard to signal to your partner that you’re ready to go. Settle on some keywords or hand signals that let your partner know that you’re horny now. Your move could be rubbing your ear, putting your hair up, or texting them a specific emoji. Some people also prefer to give a reason for a prolonged absence, which allows you more time when playing with sex toys. Some good excuses to use when you plan to break out the women’s or men’s sex toys include cleaning up a stain from your clothing, turning off a home appliance you “forgot” about, or running a last-minute errand.
4. Use the Right Positions
If you plan on having sex or playing with sex toys with your clothing on, the best position is going to be the lap-sitting position. For this position, one person sits in a chair or on a bed, and the other person sits on their lap. You should both be facing in the same direction. The person on top can hook their legs around their partner’s legs or the chair legs to get some leverage and move more easily.
There are a few other positions that allow for quiet sex, especially participating in slower sex. Here are a few more options:
Slow Doggy Style
An easy and discreet sex position you may already be familiar with, slow doggy is the exact same position as the traditional doggy style. However, the slower pace, as we mentioned above, reduces the slapping sounds that may occur. The person standing behind will also have more control over their partner’s motions to minimize sound during orgasm.
Sideways 69
Since 69 is an oral position, it’s already quieter than most other sex positions. It’s also a convenient position for using adult toys for couples on each other simultaneously. But if you do the 69 position on your side, you reduce movement even more to ensure playing with sex toys is even quieter.
Missionary
This classic sex position is also very effective in keeping things quiet. It can be ideal for providing both people with more control, no matter who is on top. We recommend a slow tempo to minimize bed thumping or squeaking throughout your experience.
Spooning
Spooning is one of the most comfortable sexual positions, which allows the partner who is the big spoon almost unlimited access to every part of the other person’s body. You can experiment with double penetration using an adult toy for women along with the male member and explore ass-play more thoroughly to enhance orgasms quietly.
For same-sex couples, it’s also very easy to swap spots by rolling over and reversing the spoon positions so everyone has a chance to orgasm. There are many unique sex toys you can use during spooning that can spice up your sex life and ensure you’re playing with sex toys discreetly.
Lotus Position
Our final sex position recommendation is the lotus. For this position, one person sits cross-legged on the floor while the other person sits on top of them. The up-and-down motion of your hips will prevent any sudden movement or loud noises. Since you’re facing each other, it can make sex more intimate because it allows kissing and stroking while you’re thrusting.
What to Do If You’re Caught
If there’s any risk that other people will stumble upon you in the act, you should always be prepared to handle the awkwardness. You may choose to apologize, start a sex-positive conversation with parents or roommates, deny what you were doing, or discuss the new boundaries you need to ensure a healthy, private sex life.
The main advice we have for people caught having sex or playing with sex toys is not to make a big deal of the situation. Apologize and get dressed before addressing the situation how you think it needs to be addressed.
